Why Choose Your Spouse Over Any Other When Limitations Exist

Nice question. No one person can provide everything a relationship might need. Just as a sweet dish doesn't contain spicy flavors, and a spicy dish is not suited for those who prefer bitter tastes, every individual has limitations. In marriage, it makes sense to complement your partner and accept their limits.

During my search for a spouse while in the USA, it was natural to look for someone there. Many NRI (Non-Resident Indian) men I spoke to seemed complicated, boastful, or even outright hypocritical. Some admitted to having certain food or lifestyle habits or past love affairs but asked not to be shared with their parents. It all got too confusing for me.

I chose my husband because he embodies simplicity and innocence. I married him because what he brings to the table complements my needs in a unique way. Without her, I would be a different person. Our bond is special—it's akin to Jack and Rose, Romeo and Juliet or the foundation of a deep, lasting love as described by The Righteous Brothers: 'You are my reason for laughing, for crying, for living, and for dying.'

Our relationship isn't just about having what someone else can't provide. It's also about trust, mutual respect, and the sense of completeness one achieves. Here's a story that will help illustrate this point:

Our Journey to Collectively Navigating Limitations

Recently, my wife and I shared a brunch together. I asked him a question out of curiosity—why we chose each other over anyone else. His response was insightful, yet simple:

"Maybe because we can be really ourselves with each other. You don't have to fake anything in front of me, and I don't have to fake anything in front of you. Maybe because we can share anything with each other and not judge. Maybe because we don't have to prove anything to each other."

He took another bite and continued: "Maybe because we are good, best friends before anything else. Maybe because we've found a home in each other."

The singer then started playing a romantic song, and he asked for my hand to hold for a moment. This question isn't just about choosing a spouse; it's about understanding why certain individuals fit the role of a spouse so well.

Choosing a Spouse: More Than Just Complementary Needs

So, why did I settle for this man over all others?

Spouse Should Be Your Best Friend: Your partner should be your confidant, someone with whom you can smile, flirt, and laugh. You should be able to share everything. Look Beyond External Appearances: Marriage doesn't revolve around looks, money, lust, or mere practicality—though they all play a role. It's about being together for life, about submission and complete commitment. Build on Mutual Respect and Trust: There must be a deep foundation of respect, trust, and open communication. Support, teamwork, understanding, loyalty, and acceptance—these are vital elements of a healthy marriage. Putting Each Other First: Love means putting each person first, not second, third, or fourth. It means being your spouse's top priority, an advisor and an integral part of the other's life.

In conclusion, every individual has unique strengths and weaknesses. In marriage, it is about finding someone who complements your life while also being your best friend. It's a journey of mutual growth, understanding, and love that transcends superficial traits into a lifetime commitment. This is what made my choice of spouse so impactful and fulfilling.