Understanding Narcissistic Behavior: Why Did My Narcissistic Ex Leave Me for His Ex?

I found myself in a situation that felt like a mess, one I signed up for absolutely not. Being triangulated in a relationship is something no one wants to experience. From the very beginning, I made it clear I had no intention of being part of this toxic dynamic. However, my ex was grooming me to further undo his past relationship. The demands were clear: dress like him, go to the gym with him, and eat the same foods. All of this was done to feed into his desire to make his ex jealous.

What really sets narcissists apart from neurotypicals is their destructive behavior after a separation. When your relationship comes to an end, you can expect the narcissist to go to great lengths to damage your emotional well-being. This often includes trying to take everything from you, including your house, kids, money, and even spreading lies about you. My ex did exactly this to his previous ex, leaving her with nothing but emotional scars.

I was left wondering why someone would continue this cycle of hatred and destruction. It made me question: if they made her life a living hell during their relationship, why would they try to repeat this during a separation? Clearly, this behavior is not characteristic of a healthy or genuine love.

Common Reasons for Narcissist Behavior

Narcissists often leave their ex for another for several reasons. One common reason is the need for control and power. They may have initially rekindled their relationship to feel in control and boost their ego. Once they regained this sense of control, they saw an opportunity to reassert dominance and power by returning to a previous relationship.

Another reason is the need for validation and attention. Narcissists often use other people as sources of validation, including exes. Once their ex comes back into the picture, they may find that they can get more attention and validation from them.

Narcissists also have a lack of empathy, which makes it difficult for them to consider the feelings of others. They may have initiated the reunion without regard for your feelings. Once their ex appeared, they might simply discard you without a second thought.

Impulsiveness and Lack of Consideration

Narcissists are often impulsive, acting on their immediate desires and needs without considering the consequences. They may have gotten back with you without thinking about how it would affect you. Once their ex came back, they might have impulsively left without considering the impact on you.

Conclusion: Moving Forward

Ultimately, it is important to remember that narcissists are not capable of healthy and genuine relationships. They often use people for their own gain and do not truly care about the feelings of others. If you find yourself in a similar situation, it is best to distance yourself from this type of toxic behavior and focus on your own well-being. Stepping away from such a relationship is the best choice for your emotional health and personal growth.

Beingtriple-groomed and dealing with a narcissist can be a challenging and painful experience. Moving forward, it is essential to prioritize your mental and emotional health. If you or someone you know is feeling the effects of a toxic relationship, consider seeking support from a trusted friend, family member, or a professional. Remember, you deserve to surround yourself with people who respect and value you.