Navigating Friendship and Love After a Rejected Proposal

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Risking More Than Friendship

I had asked a girl out 5 years ago, and she had rejected me. This rejection was initially disheartening, but over time, our friendship deepened into what has become the best support system I have. Even after the rejection, the thought of informing her of my feelings again wouldn't help. It’s crucial to understand and respect the message she gave you. Rejected does not mean she still has interest, despite how hard it may be to accept.

Respecting Her Decision

When you receive a clear message stating 'no,' it's important to respect and accept it. This rejection might have been due to feelings that weren't reciprocated or personal choices. Regardless of the reason, her response is clear, and you must live with it. It’s a vital lesson in moving forward gracefully and understanding that sometimes, respect means stepping back.

Friendship Over Ambition

It is imperative to maintain your stance as a good friend, even if you harbor feelings for her. Your actions and words should always reflect this. When you see an opportunity to spend time with her, be honest and open about your intentions. If she sees you being genuine and giving her space, it might reassure her that you value friendship over anything else.

Hey, I've been there. Seeing if she is available and still interested is your best bet. You can tell her, 'Hey, I've grown and realized my past choices weren't the best. I had a chance with Mary in the past, but it didn't work out. I value our friendship and hope that even if we can't be more, we can be the best friends.'

Feeling Rejected and Regretful

Feeling a consistent connection to someone, regretting your past actions, and wondering if things could be different is a complicated emotional journey. Understanding that she has changed and you have too is important. She may have different feelings, or she might not be interested at all. Choosing to communicate your feelings honestly can either strengthen your bond or steer it back into friendship.

Tell her, 'Mary, I know we’ve been friends for a while, and things have changed for both of us. I have feelings for you, but I understand if they’re not mutual. I hope we can continue to be good friends and support each other.'

Final Thoughts

Love and friendship are precious and complex. Respecting her decision and acting on your feelings while maintaining harmony in your friendship can be challenging. It's about honesty, respect, and mutual understanding. If your relationship deepens, both of you must be ready to face the outcomes together.