What Should You Never Say to a Cosplayer?

When interacting with cosplayers, it is essential to be respectful and considerate. Here are some things you should avoid saying:

Dos and Don'ts

1. "Is that a real costume?"

This can come off as dismissive. Instead, appreciate the effort and creativity they put into their cosplay. Express your admiration for the intricate details and the time spent on the costume.

2. "You don’t look like the character."

Cosplay is often about interpretation. Focus on the creativity rather than strict accuracy. Encourage their own unique take on the character, as it adds to the fun and authenticity of the event.

3. "I bet you made that yourself."

This can imply doubt about their skills or effort. If you’re curious, ask about their process instead. Showing genuine interest in their craftsmanship can enhance the positive interaction.

4. "Why do you dress like that?"

This can feel invasive or judgmental. Instead, ask what they love about the character or their cosplay experience. This shows respect for their choices and interests.

5. "Can I take a picture?"

Always ask politely and respect their answer if they decline. Ensure that your request is welcomed and that you do not feel like an annoyance.

6. "You should do this character instead."

This can undermine their choices. Instead, compliment their current cosplay and suggest that your preferences are just as valid. Encouragement fosters a positive atmosphere.

7. "You’re too old/young to be doing this."

Cosplay is for all ages. Avoid making assumptions about who should or shouldn’t cosplay. Recognize the passion and creativity in each cosplayer, regardless of their age.

Additional Insights from a Cosplayer

1. "Is that your pajamas?"

Darling never ever ask a cosplayer if their costume is their pajamas! We put our hearts and sewing skills into these outfits not for comfy bedtime but for epic adventures at cons! Enjoy their transformation and let them share the journey with you.

2. Gender-Neutral Cosplay

Never tell someone that they shouldn’t cosplay as something because of their gender. You never know if that crossplay is an outlet for something far more important or not. Show support and understanding for their choices.

3. Invalidating Efforts

It is never appropriate to invalidate someone’s efforts, regardless of how small you think they are. Compliment their work and the passion behind it. Validating their hard work can make them feel appreciated and encouraged.

Common Annoyances

As a cosplayer, there are some instances that can be particularly frustrating. Here are some common annoyances that can ruin the positive vibe of a cosplay convention:

1. "You can't be insert character name here because they aren’t insert color/gender/race."

This statement can be incredibly hurtful and dismissive. Cosplay is about personal interpretation and creativity. Encourage their unique take on the character and show interest in their creative choices.

2. "You have a nice insert character here."

While the intent might be positive, this comment can be seen as dismissive and undermining. Instead, focus on the cosplayer’s overall experience and the passion behind their choice. This can make the interaction more meaningful.

3. Public Inquiries in Distressing Situations

Sometimes, a cosplayer might be in a distressing situation, such as needing a rest or assistance. An old lady in the previous example wrongly assumed that another cosplayer dressed as Katsuki Bakugou couldn’t be a girl, which is both incorrect and inflammatory. Always approach a cosplayer with kindness and respect, especially in challenging moments.

By following these guidelines, you can ensure a positive and respectful interaction with cosplayers, making conventions and events more enjoyable for everyone involved.